You Cannot See the Picture When You Are in The Frame 2

7th Oct 2009

Hello lovely people

The second conclusion is that it is easier to find the reason for an experience once you have been through it.

For most of our conscious experiences, we have a plan and we focus on the outcome.  Once we have achieved the desired outcome, we are happy because we have achieved our objectives.  But all of these plans that we consciously achieve are one-dimensional.  Whatever we achieve, it is always less than we are capable of, for various reasons.

Then we have other experiences that we regard as “bad luck” or co-incidence or other people’s mistakes that we have to suffer for.  We often feel that these experiences are out of our control.  We like to blame other people for them.

I have discovered that these “unplanned” experiences are the really meaningful ones.  They are multi-dimensional.  They are not measured by formulas or outcomes of achieved goals.  They are the really meaningful experiences which teach us far more than anything we can consciously plan.

For us to have successful lives, we have to go through these more complex experiences.

Does this mean that we have to first experience everything and then only later understand the meaning?  Initially, yes.  It is only much later, when we have learned to decipher and respect the code of life, that we become aware of the meaning of an experience while we are having it.

We first have to be in the picture and experience the picture.  Only once we know every corner of the picture, do we learn the skill of detachment.  Then we can still be in the picture, but a part of us candstep out of the frame and look at the picture from the outside in.

This new view helps us to learn our life lessons much quicker.

Don’t confuse detachment with denial.

Denial is a pressure cooker which can boil over at any minute.  Denial is a bomb waiting to explode.  Denial is something that you need to deal with, and the only way to deal with it is to stay in the picture until you can happily smile and enjoy being in the picture.

Detachment, on the other hand, will only occur when you have learned that being in your picture is natural and normal.  Once you take ownership of your life, you stop reacting and start responding.

That is when you can step out of the frame and see the whole picture.  That is when you understand the meaning of your experiences and understand that every single experience was a blessing.

Please leave a comment if you feel inspired.

Love and Light

PS: I am a professional transition coach.
I help individuals and businesses to achieve
their personal and commercial objectives.

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