The spiritual purpose of telling lies
27th Feb 2008
Whoa, you say. How can lying ever serve a purpose when you are a spiritual person? Surely it is better for all involved to always tell the truth?
Right now two people are prominent in my life because of lies they told to me. I am not judging them or saying I have never told a lie. I am simply recognising a truth here that I have not been aware of, namely that there are times when lies serve a spiritual purpose.
One person was my best friend during my final years in school. After school we both married young and stayed in touch, but the longer we both were married, the more our emotional closeness became watered down. We were both aware of it, but we never discussed it.
Then one day she deliberately told me a few lies. I was shocked and hurt, and did not understand why she went out of her way to destroy our friendship.
We went our separate ways and lost contact for fifteen years. Recently a string of co-incidences resulted in our paths crossing again. It so happened that I contacted her the day after her ex-husband had died.
It was like finding a comfortable cardigan again that had been mislaid for many years. In a few sentences she explained that she had to break off contact with me and all her loved ones, including her family, in a misguided attempt to please her husband and salvage her marriage. By the time she realised that her marriage was doomed anyway, she no longer had the contact details of people that would have been able and willing to support her.
I understand now that at the time I was also not ready to provide her with the support she needed.
All these years her lies and the loss of our friendship have bothered me, and I admit that I blamed her for it. I had no idea that us being separated was part of my path as well as of her path, and that this was part of the Bigger Plan. I thank God and the angels for this insight and for having my friend back.
At the moment a relative also features strongly in my life because of lies. This person has been telling lies and been dishonest in her marriage and living an illusion by fooling and lying to and cheating family and friends for many years.
As the saying goes, you can fool some of the people some of the time, but you cannot fool all of the people all of the time.
The lies of this relative have now reached a point of desperation, where she is resorting to emotionally blackmailing her children and the small group of family member and friends that still have contact with her.
Of course the easiest thing is to judge her and to get irritated about her not growing up and facing reality.
But what if all her lies serve a purpose for her as well? What if they are part of her life path, which is different from mine? What if each one of us that get fed up with her dishonesty, play a significant role in helping her to learn a valuable lesson in her life? Then surely we should simply hold up our versions of the truth each time it differs from her version of the truth, and in that way help her to learn her lesson so that she can move on to a smoother path?
I have realised that lies are simply a truth that is not mine, and it is not for me to judge the actions and motives of another person when they live a different truth.
Lies are a part of the life path of each of us. If you disagree, think of the last time you lied or bent the truth to achieve a purpose. We can judge others for lying to us, or we can take responsibility for every time we present our own truth, and understand that we determine our own life paths.
God loves us all, and that is not a lie.
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Love and Light
Elsabe
