I am just having a bad hair day – nothing serious 2

29th Jun 2008







Hello lovely people

If you feel like whining and complaining but choose to rather jump up and down, do a few war cries and take a few deep breaths, you will immediately pop out of the whining mood, because you will simply have too much energy to hang your shoulders and your face.  You may get a few funny looks in the office, but at least you will feel much better for the rest of the day – and get a laugh out of other whining people which will make them feel better.  Try it – it works. 

Of course laughing also raises your vibrations. It does not matter whether it is a giggle by yourself or a deep laugh that comes from your stomach.  You do not need to hear a good joke to laugh.  All you need to do is laugh, and notice how your feelings change.  There are companies that have tried this – a laughing session to start the day off – and it improved their productivity.  They did not allow any jokes – at some point you could either run out of jokes or offend someone, and people’s sense of humour differ anyway.  Just laughing works all the time if you want to raise the energy in a room, and it is contagious.

There is also the darkness that we experience after a particular incident, like a divorce or an accident.  Some people experience it and then decide to move on.  This takes time, but we all have our incidents and it is possible to accept them as part of our life path and then move on.  Other people define themselves in terms of that incident for the rest of their lives, and often join organisations that make them feel like traitors if they choose to move on.  I am referring to organisations that help people “recover” from alcoholism or rape or losing a child and so on.  I am sure they initially do good work, but their survival depends on having dedicated members – people who choose to relive their experiences for a long time rather than integrate the experiences and get on with their lives.

If you are stuck in such an experience and want to define your life in a different way, I can recommend Dr John Demartini’s Breakthrough Experience or any good NLP practitioner. 

NLP is the acronym for neuro-linguistic programming.  NLP explores the relationships between how we think (neuro), how we communicate (linguistic) and our patterns of behaviour and emotion (programmes).  An NLP practitioner will help you identify how your thoughts create your reality, and then change those thoughts so that you can also change your behaviour patterns and the emotions that they are based on. 

But if you are simply having a bad hair day, trust me, nothing beats retail therapy.  Just do not buy any clothes when you are in such a mood, because when you feel better and you see what you have spent your money on, you will get yourself into a mother of a depression.

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I am just having a bad hair day – nothing serious 1

25th Jun 2008







Hello lovely people

When we wake up in the morning, we all look like a version of the devil in the children’s bible, with hair standing in all directions. We then choose how to approach the day, and if we make the wrong choice, we blame our hair. Is that fair on our hair? And some young people (and people who still believe they are young) spend a fortune on hair gel and cultivating that porcupine look that the rest of us try to tame before we leave the house.

We all feel less than great at times. Of course there is the bad hair day, which friends can commiserate with, because like you they know this is nothing serious. It really is a cry for a friend to go with you to buy another pair of shoes or a pint of beer, whichever way you are inclined. You recognise these people because one talks all the time and the other one only says “I know . . . Isn’t it just . . . I know . . . Of course not . . . “ and so on. We all need that from time to time. I know someone who only calls me about twice a year. When she calls, I know it is so that I can tell her she is a great person. When she is in that mood, somehow she believes me, but not her husband or children who constantly makes demands on her.

Then there are the days when we simply choose to feel like whining about things, especially the weather and the government. Why on earth does everyone the world over have such an obsession with the weather? Anyway, when we choose to have a miserable day, the worst we can encounter is someone who is radiant with happiness, because it somehow tells us we made the wrong choice, and that is not nice to know and makes our day worse.

Of course we can consciously choose to change our mood. It does take some effort, like finding your way back to the right road when you get lost in a city you do not know. You can continue to just drive until you leave the city, and then try again to get to your destination, or you can focus on driving to the end of the one-way street, and then use your inner compass to go into the right direction and be on your way again. To be continued.

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Premonitions and confirmations 2

21st Jun 2008



Hello lovely people

We seem to have stronger links to some people than to others, as if the paper was folded double so that the figures would be joined from the knees downwards but also touch closely on all the other parts. The people that we have stronger links to are those that we associate with on a daily basis. They would for example be lovers, close family, friends and even animals.

I have read about an experiment that was done with a woman and her dog. The woman would leave home to go somewhere specifically for the experiment, in other words not part of her daily routine. She would travel in a random direction, and at some point decide to stop and turn back home. She would note the time when she decided to turn back home.

At the same time there was a person at her home that would observe the behaviour of the dog. Invariably, the dog would get up and wag its tail in anticipation of the return of the woman, a few minutes BEFORE the woman consciously decided to stop and turn back. How did the dog know the woman was on her way back? The dog had no hesitation tuning into the quantum vacuum to ensure that he would retain contact with his owner, because the dog has not learnt yet to fear the unknown. We tune in the same way, but we do it unconsciously, and that is how we become aware of the well-being and distress of those that we feel closest to us.

I grew up in an area where there would regularly be light earth tremors – near the gold fields in South Africa. We could also see in the behaviour of the animals when an earthquake could be expected, and even how severe it would be. If the animals – both chickens and dogs – became restless, there would be a light tremor. If they started behaving completely out of character, that would be the time to go outside and expect a more severe tremor.

The same happened during the tsunami a few years ago. There were a number of elephants with their mahouts or drivers in one area. These elephants were tame and used to having people on their backs. On the specific day, the elephants ran to higher ground and nearly threw the people off their backs. They then ran down again and grabbed unsuspecting people with their trunks and dumped them on higher ground.

The mahouts had no control over the animals, and only realised what had happened when the devastating wall of water came.

Imagine waves of energy around us and emanating from us. Those waves of energy probably have the same strength for each one of us, but we are only tuned into those that we consciously want to pick up, like a radio that is tuned into a specific station. The other stations are there, but if we tune into all the stations, it would be too much for our minds (and our ears) to cope with.

So we simply tune into those people that we care most about, and then we are surprised when we know about their well-being before they know themselves – because we do not understand what we know intuitively. We live on the surface of a sea of information, and we are only aware of a tiny bit of that information.

So when you have a very strong and often apparently completely irrational feeling about something, accept that it is real, and act on it. It will make a huge difference to your life and someone else’s life.

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Premonitions and confirmations 1

17th Jun 2008



Hello lovely people

Have you ever had the experience where you think of someone and then the phone rings and it is that person calling you?  Or where you talk about someone and that person walks into the room unexpectedly?

And then there are the many instances where people disappear and their loved ones know in their heart of hearts whether they are alive or dead, but have no way of explaining that knowledge.  An example is the disappearance of Madeleine McCann in Portugal a year ago.  I personally am convinced that she is still alive – that is what my gut feel tells me.  Many other parents and loved ones are not so fortunate – and they know it, and are just waiting for confirmation.   I really feel so sorry for them, but then we all choose our experiences because we need to learn from them.

I have learnt over the years to dread dreaming about people close to me like my son or my partner.  I know from experience that those dreams invariably are warnings of trouble ahead.  For many years I was only aware of these dreams that came true a few days later, and I did not realize that they were early warnings.   Once I have had the dream, all I can do is wait for the trouble to materialize and then deal with it.   If I had known this years ago when I first became aware of those particular dreams, I would have made different life choices.  My life has turned out to be perfect for its purpose anyway, because those experiences and the warning dreams have been a very important part of my spiritual path and my growing awareness. 

How does this work?  Here is my unscientific version.

Take a sheet of newspaper.  Fold it in half, and then in half again, so that you have four layers of newspaper.  Now take a pair of scissors and cut the outline of a person out of the newspaper, but cut it out from the knees upwards.  You should end up with four people touching hands, and joined from their knees downwards.

That is a representation of us, the people on earth and in the universe.  We are all unique and individual, but at the same time we are all one and linked together.  If you want to, you can give names to the people you cut out.  How about calling them Me, Sister Teresa, Osama bin Laden and Sarah Jessica Parker?  Why not?  Why would you want to be one with Sarah Jessica Parker but not with Osama bin Laden?  We do not have much choice in this – we are all one.  If you had cut out six figures, you could have named the last two Jesus and Adolf Hitler.  Or you could have named them after you most and least favourite teachers at school.  Either way, this gives you an idea of how we are all linked together in this Universe.  To be continued.

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Love and Marriage 2

10th Jun 2008



Hello lovely people

There is the modern practice of dating many people and having no-strings-attached sex with various partners.  As a friend of mine once put it, there is nothing wrong with good, happy, healthy sex, no matter who your partner is.  That would not work for me, but who are we to judge one another?    I once read somewhere a very cynical definition of love:  when two people wake up together in the same bed in the morning and neither wants to leave, they have found love.  Such occasions probably call for a minor celebration, but I wonder.

On the other hand, we have all seen couples that are radiant together.  They clearly belong together and they want the world to know this.  Now that is a celebration.  I mean every time they are in the presence of others and their happiness spill over to other people, there is a celebration of love.  Whether they ever get married or not becomes irrelevant. 

I once had a colleague who had that kind of love with her husband.  They both had successful careers and they had two lovely children.  Because of discriminatory tax legislation, they had to pay a huge penalty for being married and successful. They got divorced and did not tell anybody.  She confided in me a few years after the divorce and I wondered how she could be so matter-of-fact about this.  This was when my own acrimonious divorce was still fresh in my mind. 

Then she invited me to their house and I met her husband – and all became clear to me.  They had been together for nearly thirty years, and they were still in love and acting like newly-weds.  There were moments when nobody else existed for them in the room.  I realised that what they had was a meeting of souls, and that the angels celebrate with them every time they are together.  That is when I put in my order for a similar relationship, and the angels listened.

The union of two souls is a celebration.  Does it matter whether the union is between a man and a woman, or between two people of the same sex in a relationship?  Not for me.

And this union does not only happen between couples.  I have seen the same thing with a teenage girl holding her mother’s hand in the company of other adults.  The girl was a stunningly beautiful, well adjusted young lady who was quite comfortable with expressing her obvious love for her mother in this way.

I have seen two sisters with very different characters embrace each other for no specific reason.  And that was not a once-off occasion.  Those sisters are both married women today and will still walk through the proverbial fire for each other.

I have a friend that has shared my path with me for over fifteen years now.  We live on different sides of the world, grew up in vastly different cultures, and she smokes like a chimney, but I was with her when she waded through hell and she has been there for me during my worst and best times, often without question, sometimes with strong criticism, but always with love.  The bond between us transcends all differences and our differences enrich our friendship.

And I am fortunate enough to be able to often associate with kindred spirits that radiate this kind of love.  Namaste to all my free flying friends out there!

No document or ceremony can capture this kind of love, and when it happens to you, you will know, because the room will be full of angels.  When you find such love, hold on to it.

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Love and Marriage 1

3rd Jun 2008



Hello lovely people

We like ceremonies and celebrations.  We scoff at ceremonies like coronations, inaugurations, society weddings and other public celebrations, but only after we had watched them, so that we can ridicule the detail.  We silently place ourselves in the place of the main characters in the celebration, and wish for our own turn.

I remember when Prince Charles and Princess Diana got married. At the time I was working as a civil servant in South Africa.  For one day, we were allowed to break all the rules.  I had a portable television set in my office, and we gathered around it all day so that we would not miss even a tiny detail of the broadcast.  This was years after South Africa became a republic, and we had no official ties with the royal family.  It did not matter.  We were caught up in the magic.

I recently heard about a man who spent that entire day in bed with his girlfriend, now his wife of many years.  They obviously had their own magic going on that day.

In England the expression “getting a hat” means that a couple has decided to get married and it is time to prepare for a celebration, part of which is to buy a hat to wear to the ceremony.

Nowadays a wedding is preceded by months of planning and huge expenses.  Everything has to be just right, and there are even mock weddings before the day so that every participant can remember their steps for the big moment. 

Sadly, the cost of a traditional wedding and the emphasis on the legal aspects of the wedding put people off the idea of marriage.  Add to that the high divorce rate and the negative emotions that go with divorce, and marriage becomes a lot less attractive.

The gagirl website contains a lot of amusing and eye-opening information about the various traditions that go with the modern Christian wedding ceremony.  Virtually nothing of the ceremony has anything to do with being Christian – or belonging to any other faith group.

Considering that marriage is not even mentioned in the Bible, it is interesting how much emphasis the churches and even some governments place on the institution of the Christian marriage as a means of controlling relationships.

Among all the fuss, we miss the point.  Does it really matter what style the wedding dress is or which side the groom stands on?  What difference will the honeymoon destination make to the ceremony, except to cause stress when the couple are probably already not quite keeping up with expectations?

What is far more important is the celebration of joy and happiness when two people find each other and decide to be a couple.  And that does not need to be celebrated with pomp and ceremony. 

Conclusion to follow – not because I got lazy, but because research indicated that readers prefer shorter updates.   This is my way of showing Love and Light to you.

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