I believe in angels – and fairies and mermaids

28th Apr 2008

Hello lovely people

Have you ever seen a real fairy?  Or a giant, or a dwarf, or a troll, or a mermaid, or an angel?  No?  Then that means they do not exist, right?

If you have never been to Africa, would you be able to identify a giant African elephant, or a giraffe, or a male lion with a huge mane, or a black mamba? Or if you have never been to Europe, would you be able to identify the Eiffel Tower, Windsor Castle, the leaning tower of Pisa?  If you have never been to Egypt, would you recognize the pyramids or the sphinx?

Of course, you say.  There are photographs of them on the internet, or you know people that have been to those places and returned to show the photographs and tell the story.  Books have been written about them, and therefore they must be real.

But the same rule does not apply to fairies or trolls or mermaids or angels, right?   We all know that these things do not really exist.  And we all know that people are giants or dwarfs because of their genetic disposition or because of particular glands that malfunction.  That means if some people can see angels and trolls and fairies but we cannot see them, there is something wrong with those people.  If other people can describe giraffes and the Eiffel Tower just from a picture where we cannot, because we have never seen them, then that is OK.  Does that make sense?

Let’s look at this from a different angle.  We know that our thoughts create images, and these images then materialize.  Am I saying that we just imagine things like angels or fairies?  In a way yes, but bear with me.  We first imagine everything on this earth, from the chair that you sit on to the PC or laptop that you are reading this on to the food that you eat and the clothes that you wear.  None of these things just appear from thin air.  They are all first just an image, or a figment of our imagination, and then the image materializes.  Of course we contribute to this materialization, because we use tools to make things.  But where did the tools come from?  Exactly.  Somebody first imagines them, and then made them.

But if we can imagine things and then make them, where do we get the images from?  From our minds?  Yes and no.

There is a world that is identical to ours in another dimension.  We become aware of that world by means of our imagination.  That is why imagination is a doorway to a different dimension.  That world is where all our ideas and inspirations come from.  The same world contains the ideas of geniuses and murderers.  We choose what we take from that world, and we imagine all of these things (i.e. we create images of them) and then the images materialize.

So do mermaids really exist?  How about dwarves?  And can the story of David and Goliath be based on a real giant?  Why is it that all fairies and angels have wings?  Is it at all possible that people have actually seen these things, as real as you see your breakfast spoon?

Have you seen that lovely red mushroom with the white spots that appears in the drawings that go with fairy tales?  Have you ever seen such a mushroom for real?  The scientific name of that mushroom is Amanita Muscaria. They are also known as magic mushroom because of their hallucinogenic-type effects – the same effects are induced by LSD.  They grow in the northern hemisphere, and have been used for many years by shamans to induce an altered state of consciousness.  Because you have never seen them for real, does not mean that they do not exist.

Some people believe in angels because they are mentioned in the Bible, but they do not believe that the angels actually exist for real.  They laugh and wonder about the sanity of the people that can see and talk to angels, but it is OK for them to believe that there are churches with round tops in Moscow, even though they have never seen them.

Many children believe that they can see fairies, and it is much more than a belief – for them it is real.   For their parents it is just a child’s active imagination, and they regard it as part of their parental duties to get the child to acknowledge that pictures of fairies are just that – pictures of some fancy figment of someone’s imagination.

Because we deny our own truths with small things like the existence of fairies, we also deny larger truths such as inspirations, ideas and flashes of our own futures that come from the same sources.  We deny ourselves a richness of life that is there for us to enjoy at all times, if we are willing to stretch the boundaries of our truths.

Read an extract from The Visitors, a short story that illustrates  how we choose our own experiences.

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Extract from The visitors

28th Apr 2008

Hello lovely people

He opened his eyes and turned his head slightly so that he would not need to look into the sun and suddenly he was fully awake and staring.

She was the most awesome creature he had ever encountered.  She was dainty, petite, with long, flowing hair.  She was hovering just above the grass.  Perfectly shaped.  But tiny and hovering. 

She smiled at him.

He closed his eyes, and tried to erase the image.  He playfully opened one eye, trying to convince himself that she was a creature of his imagination.  She was still there, with an impish smile and one eye also closed. 

He opened both eyes.

She was still there, laughing.  She twirled around like a thought, not touching anything, not even the grass. 

He saw her wings.  His jaw dropped.  His mind was telling him he was looking at a fairy.  His mind was also saying it was not possible, because fairies do not really exist.

Read the whole story in  A Tapestry of Life, a collection of short stories about moments that changed people’s lives.  The book can also be obtained from Trafford Publishing.

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Expectations and disappointments

23rd Apr 2008

Hello lovely people

Can you remember the last time you really looked forward to something and it did not turn out as perfect as you anticipated?   Can you remember your disappointment? 

Let’s look at what happened here.  You had particular expectations that were not fulfilled because your expectations were unrealistically high.  You attached an emotional value to the outcome, and you focused on the emotional value rather than on the outcome.

The outcome was not equivalent to the emotional value that you attached to it, and as a result you attached a different emotional value to it, namely disappointment.  You did not accept the outcome or actions for what they were worth, but discarded them on the basis of an emotional judgement.

Then there were other occasions where you felt that something was a chore and you did not really look forward to it but did it anyway, and it turned out to be quite enjoyable.  Why would that be?

In this instance you were not emotional about the action or outcome.  You focused on the action rather than on your emotions, and you were in a much better position to be in the present and enjoy the moment. 

There are a few issues here that we need to understand.  The first one is about the process of creation.  We all create our own lives and our own destinies all the time.  We have thoughts.  Those thoughts are put into words and the words are put into actions.  There are many things that we do without even being aware of this process of creation.  For example, why did you get out of bed this morning?  Did you wake up and think what shall I do today, and weigh up your options, and then choose to get dressed and get on with your daily routine?  Of course not.  But at some time in your life you made a decision about every aspect of your daily routine and that is why the thoughts became actions that you feel comfortable with and that are acceptable to you.

We go through this process all the time.  Sometimes it is a conscious process, for example when we feel it is time for a holiday.  We decide on the dates and the destiny, and we make the bookings.  Then we build up anticipation and we thoroughly enjoy the holiday.

At other times the process is not conscious, for example when you have to visit a parent that you do not get on with.  You feel it is your duty to go and visit, and you do not realise that even thinking about it is a conscious thought that you expand after discarding other options.  Then you anticipate the visit in the light of previous visits, and you add your emotions to the process.  The choice that you made then becomes an ordeal that you need to get on with.  You do not even consider the option of experiencing a pleasant visit, because you take a whole suitcase of emotional baggage with you.  Is it then such a surprise that the visit turns sour – again?

Another issue to consider is what I shall call a time lag.  The kabala teaches us that we only see 1% of who we really are.  The other 99% of who we really are is invisible and often we are not even conscious of that part of ourselves.  The thoughts that we are conscious of have already come to the surface from our subconscious by the time we become aware of them.  Then we start to put those thoughts into words, and eventually the words become actions.  Our actions are simply visible expressions of our unconscious self, or our souls.

The most challenging parts of our unconscious are the parts that we learn from the most and that we grow from spiritually.

Once we become aware of this time lag, we are more attuned to our own spiritual growth, and we become far more forgiving towards ourselves when we know that a challenging experience lies ahead of us.  Instead of getting so involved with the emotions that are elicited by the experience, we become aware of the emotions and we can question why they are there and learn from them.

Then we stop looking forward to something as if that incident owes us satisfaction, and we stop dreading future incidents as if those incidents are already bad simply because we are planning them.  We start to understand that we create all of our own experiences, and we also choose what emotions we want to attach to those experiences.  We then consciously create different experiences and choose different emotions and our lives are much more balanced.

That brings us to another issue, namely balance.  The Universe is in perfect balance.  When we choose strong emotions as a reaction to a choice we make, we in effect guarantee that we will experience the opposites of those emotions as well, because the balance will be there.

That is why something you are really excited about often turns sour, and something that you do not look forward to is often quite enjoyable.

How can we use this knowledge?  By remembering that we choose our experiences and also our emotional reactions to those experiences.  We first create our experiences in our minds, and then they materialize, and therefore we need to be aware of our thoughts and change them where necessary.   And finally, whenever we choose a positive emotion, we must be prepared to experience the opposite emotion as well, because the Universe is in complete balance, and we cannot change that.  We can only use this knowledge to our advantage.

Read an extract from Flowers, a short story that illustrates how we choose our own experiences.

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He looks just like his father

18th Apr 2008

Hello lovely people

Isn’t it interesting that as soon as a baby is born, the first thing we do without even thinking about it is to identify physical traits in the baby that reminds us of either parent?

Sometimes these physical traits are obvious, like particularly shaped ears. However most of the time we only see what we want to see. We all know the colour of a new-born baby’s eyes and hair is not permanent. Yet we look at these physical traits and use them to make the parents feel good about their creation. We have nearly seventy muscles in our faces, and each one of us uses different combinations at different times. But when faced with a tiny baby that has been in this world only a few hours, we actually imagine that we can see a likeness to a parent in the way they use those unpractised muscles.

But then when we are faced with these beautiful creatures of God, we are so in awe that any emotional reactions can be forgiven.

When we look for the likeness to a parent, we intuitively reflect our understanding that each child is a combination of the father and mother. This is not just a combination of sperm and an ovum that results in a new person. This is a combination of the best and the worst of two souls.

We only experience this fact as the baby grows into a child and adult and displays behaviour that we feel reflect back to either parent. Where a child acts like a parent in a way that is acceptable, we like to praise the child – “a chip off the old block”. Where the child acts in an unacceptable way, of course the child is wrong and needs to be disciplined. We do not for a moment even consider that the child is still a reflection of the same two parents.

Let’s assume that everything our children do and say are in fact a reflection of us as parents, like a mirror that the child holds up to us. Where a child reflects behaviour and emotions such as love and gratitude, we love that child even more. Where the child reflects any emotion or behaviour that we do not like, we reject the emotions or behaviour of the child and try to shape them by means of various types of punishment, ranging from physical punishment to emotional withdrawal. Sometimes this is so blatantly hypocritical, for example parents that smoke and drink but are very upset about their teenage children that do the same in imitation of their parents.

Other times the link to the parent is less obvious, because our children also display our hidden fears and our dark sides. For example, the child of an overly conservative parent becomes sexually promiscuous. Or a rich parent who became rich because of self-discipline and focused ambition raises a child that has only one ambition, namely to live a hedonistic life. Everyone is shocked, because the child has been raised “properly” and the parent is “good”. Nobody realises that the parent needs to redress an imbalance at soul level, and that the moment it is done, both parent and child will be healed.

What if we do some introspection and identify the part of us that we dislike or want to hide, rather than judge and punish the child?

We often see our own childhoods as times where we suffered deprivation of some kind, either physically or emotionally, and we often go out of our way to ensure our children do not have the same experiences. We do not understand how our childhoods served the purpose of shaping us into the people we have become. All we remember is what we like to call deprivation, and the emotions like resentment that we like to associate with it.

When our own children are born, we want to withhold similar experiences from them, because we do not understand how those experiences redressed an imbalance in us at soul level. We then go out of our way to re-create the same imbalance to the other extreme in our children without even realising it. Then we add to this imbalance all those that we have to address in ourselves, and we are disappointed in our children when they show us what our dark side looks like. Poor children!

When we reject the behaviour of a child, we reject a part of ourselves that we regard as unacceptable or imperfect. We in fact say that God created us as a reflection of Divinity, except that God did not create our dark side. If God did not create our dark side, then who did? Did we not do that to ourselves, so that we have ourselves to blame? If God did create our dark side, then it is perfect, because God did not make a single mistake when creating this universe.

The most effective way to change unacceptable behaviour in your child is to acknowledge that behaviour or emotion in yourself and make peace with it and accept it as part of who you are. Then you can love that part of yourself as well and make a conscious effort to either change your own behaviour if your dark side is expressed in behaviour, or change your beliefs about yourself if the behaviour of your child is the opposite of the side that you normally display to the world.

Our children look just like us in more ways than we realise. We should thank God for providing them to us as teachers.
Read an extract from Flowers, a short story that illustrates how our children reflect our dark side.

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Once when I was big

15th Apr 2008

Hello lovely people

Imagine when we were all still children.  We were able to play with paper dolls or wooden cars, and create realities in which we were happy.  We could do everything we wanted and there were no limitations to our dreams – except the voice of a parent that interrupted for mundane things like mealtimes and bath-times.

We were all princes and princesses who were rescued from bad people, or doctors who healed people (and yes, even doctors and nurses who had to satisfy the curiosity about our own bodies), or firemen who did brave deeds.

As we grew older, the imagine games were toned down and we moved into daydreaming.  We still used the same imagination, but we did not share it with the world.  We created an inner world that had enough space for all the things we wanted to do and be and experience.  We stopped sharing our dreams with others, because after all they were not “real” and we were expected to cope with “reality”.

Over time we stopped dreaming.  We stopped using our imagination.  We became parents and part of our role was to teach children to distinguish between reality and imagination.  We would even get irritated at children that had these unrealistic dreams and visions of a future that could not be, because we know what is real and what is not.

Do we? The famous psychologist Carl Jung said “Who looks outside, dreams.  Who looks inside, awakens.”

For me, imagination is a doorway to a different reality.  The real reality is a place where we can dream, where there is no hurt or distractions, where we get inspiration and ideas.

The illusion is the one that we live every day.  The illusion is the world with fears and limitations where we choose to have feelings that can be described as negative.

Artists and entrepreneurs retain their imagination, and they become adults who dream unashamedly, and then live those dreams.  We look at these people in awe and admire their guts and talents.  We cannot understand how they can take such immense risks, and why they are so successful even though they do not quite act like grown-ups.

Most people get on with life, and occasionally day-dream.  Then we pull ourselves back to “reality” because we know those day-dreams are only dreams.

Yes, they are only dreams, if we choose to believe that. 

However, if we understand that day-dreams are not a means of escape from where we are, but rather a means of taking us where our true selves are, we will spend much more time daydreaming.

We need to be reminded that thoughts become words, and words become actions.  Daydreams are thoughts.  Those thoughts occur because they come from our souls.  We can choose to write them off or ignore them or suppress them, but they have a habit of popping up again and again.  Why?  Could it be that our daydreams reflect our true selves, and that we like to put up such a fight against our true selves that we refuse to daydream?

Using your imagination is not limited to daydreaming.  We have what we like to call brainwaves, thoughts that come “out of the blue”, flashed of inspiration, and what we like to call crazy ideas.  Sometimes we perceive these thoughts as so outrageous that we discard them and get on with “reality”.

If we are brave enough to accept all our thoughts, especially the more outrageous ones, and put aside our fears and prejudices, we will be in a much better position to embrace these gifts from another dimension and act on them. 

Yes, these thoughts and ideas will change our lives, and change is often scary because it leaves us out of control, but imagine we can live our dreams.  Would that not be wonderful?

Of course it will be.  And the only way we can live our dreams is to keep dreaming, in ever increasing detail, until we are able to put those dreams into words, and then see how the words become action, and how the action brings the “reality” that we live closer to our dreams.

“What would people say if I live my dreams?” you ask.  They will probably initially say you are having a mid-life crisis.  Then they will say you are being irresponsible.  Then they will see how your world changes and they will stop saying anything and just observe you from a distance.  Then they will ask carefully worded questions, and then they will start to live their own dreams with abandon and with a zest for life that they never had.

Do I want to live this reality?  In my dreams!  

Read an extract from Flowers, a short story that illustrates how day-dreams enrich our lifes.

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Extract from Flowers

14th Apr 2008

Hello lovely people

The child chatters away about the trophy he and his team mates have just won.  He describes the moves in the game, and relives the winning moments.  He ducks and dances around to show how he and his teammates made up the score.  As far as he is concerned, there was no other team on the field.  The old man follows every movement with his eyes and applauds at the appropriate moments.

A car drives up to the house. The man gets out of the car, looks at the two on the porch and shakes his head.

“Are you burning granddad’s ears again with your tales?” he smiles and ruffles the boy’s hair.  The boy laughs, looks up to his father with adoration and sprints off the porch towards the car.  Within seconds the car was turned into a hide-out from which he could aim at a horde of buffaloes running past.

“He is such an imaginative boy” the old man said lovingly. “A real artist.   You should encourage him.”

Suddenly there is a slight tension in the air.  The old man tries to ignore it and watches the boy run from the car to a tree, where he tries to hide behind the tree trunk. 

The old man waits for his son to break the silence.  The younger man remains quiet. He wants to aim angry words at the older one, but they do not come out.  He swallows and feels a tightening in his chest.  Eventually he says “Artists are disturbed people.” The old man remains quiet.

Read the whole story in A Tapestry of Life, a collection of short stories about moments that changed people’s lives.  The book can also be obtained from Trafford Publishing.

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There IS a light at the end of the tunnel!

10th Apr 2008

Hello lovely people

I am sure when I refer to the dark night of the soul many readers will sit up and say ah . . . is that what it is called.  And I thought I was the only one in the entire world that has experienced it.

What is the dark night of the soul?  I will explain that by means of an illustration.   Of course there are as many variations to the story as there are people in this world.  Once you have read the story, you can always re-write it by adding your life’s detail.  And remember, this can happen at any age, and it can happen more than once to any person.

See yourself as an innocent little baby that has just come into this world.  You grow up trusting that everyone loves you and wants to take care of you.  You have a happy childhood with all the skinned knees, first love, sibling love and rivalry and so on.  You are truly an image of God in your innocence.

Then you enter adult life and make choices.  You choose a career, a life partner (or maybe a first partner), you have children, you develop some physical ailment that becomes prominent in your life and so on.

You live life and experience all the highs and lows.  Some experiences you have result in gold stars for you while others result in big plasters.  These choices that you make along the way shape you and turn you into the person that you are now. 

Often our choices are meant for us to explore a side of ourselves that need perfection – after all we are here because we strive towards perfection.  Because of the choices we make, we move away from our true selves, which is the innocent, childlike reflection of God.  We experience our own dark sides, and we think it is OK and normal.

Then one day we wake and ask ourselves: “Is this what life is about?”  Where did I go wrong?  I am lost forever.  My life looks perfect from the outside, but in fact I am a mess.” Or, depending on the choices we made, we say “I cannot continue with my life. Something needs to change.  I need to break away from the person I have become.”

When this moment comes, we feel utterly alone in the world.  We become like a person that was put in a cave with no access to light.  Believe me, a dark cave is pitch black – you literally cannot see anything at all.

We feel isolated and unable to even talk to the people that are closest to us.  We have our backs against the wall and it is not possible to go any further back from what brought us to this point.  It is quite difficult to put this into words, and we feel even more alone in the world.  This is the dark night of the soul.

It is also the best possible place to be, because once you have your back against the wall, the only way to go is forward.

This is the point where we start to look for the Light.  It is not an easy journey, because the blackness is not helpful at all.  We fumble around and ask questions about our purpose on this earth.  The answers are not helpful at all, because people simply do not understand what we are talking about.

We hear things like “pull yourself together” or “be grateful for what you have” or “I do not know you like this.  Cheer up.”

We feel completely powerless and helpless.  We keep fumbling around and searching for the Light, and it eludes us.

Over time, things do get better.  We ask questions and the answers do become more helpful.  We feel like we are making progress, but it is slow.  We start to see the people around us in a different light.  We become more forgiving and we see a glimpse of the beautiful puzzle called life.  But the light eludes us.

Then one day we wake up and realize why we have been unable to find the Light, and that is such a relief.  We look in the mirror, and guess, what, there is the Light looking back at us.  We realize that what we have been searching for is an inner Light that has been our guiding compass all the time.

Suddenly the sun shines on us.  We understand what is meant by inner peace.  We understand that nothing has changed, but everything has changed.  We are still that innocent child that started the journey.  We are still that same reflection of God.  But this is a more mature innocence, and we have an even stronger faith in God.  We now understand the essence of life, because we were able to leave behind the bells and whistles and all the things that distracted us from our path.

We can now hold our heads high and look up and thank God for being the Light.

Read an extract from See my Badge, a short story that illustrates how one person dealt with the dark night of the soul.

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Responsible mediumship

6th Apr 2008

Hello lovely people

How do mediums and clairvoyants “know” what will happen to us before it happens?  According to Dr Manjir Samanta-Laughton, in her book Punk Science, they tap into the Quantum Vacuum.

The 17th century concept of atoms looking like billiard balls has evolved and eventually in the 20th century been replaced by quantum physics.  This new theory in physics describes particles as waves that only become solid when we look for them.  The waves are like roadmaps that contain information, but the information only becomes real and useful when we consciously look at the map.  We are surrounded by these quantum waves, because they form the Universe and everything in it and we live in this Quantum Vacuum of waves.  Where these waves cross, masses of information are stored. Mediums have the ability to tap into this consciousness and “read” what is there, and convey these messages to the people involved.

Manjir’s theory is that geniuses like Mozart or Einstein did their best work when tapping into this Quantum Vacuum.  All of us have the ability to do this and bring our own talents to the fore, if we are willing to accept this and expand our consciousness by means of, for example, meditation, to include the entire universe.

Mediums use different senses.  They use clairvoyance (the ability to see, clairaudience (the ability to hear), clairsentience (the ability to feel) or combinations of these senses.

Gifted artists are also mediums in their own right, because they tap into the Great Creator or the Quantum Vacuum.  Examples of these geniuses are Leonardo da Vinci, Michaelangelo, and Shakespeare.  I read somewhere the other day about an entrepreneur who gets loads of different business proposals on a regular basis – more than he can read.  He decides which ones to pursue by picking up the documents (not reading them, but sensing them) and making his decision.

Healers are mediums in their own way because they also tap into the Great Creator or Quantum Vacuum to access the healing that is meant for the patient.

Each one of us has access to the Quantum Vacuum without even being aware of it.  Consider for example day dreams, gut feel, inspirations, déjà vu, coincidence, synchronicity, premonitions, and so on.
For me personally, mediumship is not a focus on confirming life after death.  Eternal life is a given, and death is only a change of our state of being.

The information that I have access to, help people achieve their full potential in their current life with least effort.  I would never exclude contact with people that have passed over, but they will not necessarily be too concerned about our lives here when they have their own lives in a different dimension.

The messages that I convey are often related to Universal Law.  I regularly get themes such as do what you say and say what you do, do what is right for you and it will be right for those around you, you have choices and are not powerless, break fears down in the same way you have built them up yourself, or there is no right or wrong.

These messages enrich our own lives and help us realise our own destiny and creativity.  They help people achieve their potential and enrich their lives.

For me, mediumship must be practised in an ethical manner or not at all.  I can only describe my own ethics to you, and cannot speak for anyone else.  I will give you an idea of what you can expect from me.

I do not try to fix the world.  It is far more important to rather look inside and “fix” myself.  The energy that then ripples from me will make the world a better place.

I only provide message when I have the permission of the recipient.  I would also NEVER pry into another person’s space simply because I am curious.  I am not a peeping Tom.

I have learned to trust and listen carefully to what is communicated to me.  Even if the message makes no sense to me (and especially then) I remind myself that I am the messenger and that my role is to communicate clearly what is given to me and not necessarily to understand.  For example, I once saw a clear picture of a client trying to push five shopping trolleys at the same time.  I described the picture and told her to slow down and not try to take on too much.  She then told me that she had just started a small business, doing food shopping for professional people who do not have the time to do it for themselves, and the business had taken off faster than she anticipated.

In recent years I started getting more and more information about medical conditions of clients and the spiritual cause of these conditions.  It often happens during a reading that I start to feel physical symptoms like shooting pains, nausea, burning sensations and so on. The moment it happens, I concentrate on these symptoms, because I know they are not mine.  I feel them so that I can better describe to the client what I feel, and that helps me to be clear on the information that goes with the symptoms.

I never judge the person or the contents of the message.  For example, I recently gave a message to a man that doubted himself and was very insecure about a relationship issue.  I encouraged him to take risks, because I could see that each risk would pay off and give him more confidence.  He was quite relieved and grateful for the advice.  I then discovered that he was separated from his wife, and entering a new relationship with trepidation.  For me personally it does not feel right for a married person to have another relationship before the marriage has been disbanded.  However, this message to this client reminded me again that I am the messenger, not the judge.

I will also never have a drink and then convey a message (never mix spirits with spirits).  This is out of respect for my gift.

I do not use my mediumship as a party trick.  That is not why I have received this gift.  When a person asks me for a reading in the presence of another person, I always tell them to rather consider having the reading in private.  The reason for this is that once I start talking, I have no idea what will be conveyed.  I respect the privacy of my clients.

Of course the other important issue is around “bad news”.  Clients often tell me they do not want “bad news”.  My answer is simple.  I do not convey good or bad news.  I simply describe the challenges that lie ahead, how they can be managed (but the choice is always yours) and what the outcome will be.  I do not add the labels of “good” and “bad”, because one person’s good news is another person’s bad news.  I am just the messenger.  You live your life.

Sometime I will get images or specific words are repeated, and I have no idea what the communication is about.  I then simply convey the information to the client, and they always know exactly what I am talking about.  They do not always tell me, but that is OK with me.  One recent example is where I was shown some machine that I did not recognise, but I knew it had to be handled with thick protective gloves. This was balanced by another image of the client writing in a book.  The client told me that she was a radiologist, and that she had just started writing a book on a matter that was not work-related at all.  She was not sure whether the writing was on the right track, and the image confirmed what she needed to know.

I also make a point of not questioning my client.  If I ask questions, the temptation is there to interpret what my brain hears, rather than convey what my inner ear and other senses tell me.  I often hear other mediums spending more time asking questions than conveying information, and then I wonder.  But God uses each one of us in His/Her own way.

Because I am the messenger, I always first give the entire reading, and then, if the client wants to see cards, I use angel cards as confirmation of the message.  I do not use tarot cards for readings.  I will soon write a series of entries on tarot cards, and you may then understand why I choose not to use them for clairvoyant readings.

Clients deal with the messages in different ways.  I have learnt from experience that the outcome is the same in the long run, and therefore it is quite OK with me if a client initially rejects the message.  I have had many clients that came to me “for a laugh” and walked away being convinced and astonished.  Others did not hear what they wanted to hear and rejected the messages outright, only to return at a later occasion with questions, wanting more information. 

I do not question or judge the reactions of my clients.  I recently had a client that first questioned me about my eating habits, because she had some preconceived ideas about what the diet of a medium should consist of.  I then gave a message from her spirit guide about being petrified of taking a specific action, and she completely denied that.  She then went to another medium that sat five steps away from me, and this medium gave her the same message, but indicated that the source was one of the client’s parents.  This message was acceptable to her.  It was not for me to question her preconceived ideas or to confront her for rejecting the message that I conveyed, because what was important was for the communication to get through to her.

Mediumship is not about converting people or getting them to change their ways.  There are people whose religious beliefs exclude any recognition of for example spirit guides and guardian angels.  I respect that and do not try to convince them.

My mediumship is a gift that I cherish and thank God for.

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Earning a badge of inner peace

1st Apr 2008

Hello lovely people

Why do bad things happen to good people?  Because those things are not bad, and we are not good, and we are here to grow.

Nothing bad ever happens to us.  We choose to label our experiences as bad, because they take us out of our comfort zone.  And we choose to label ourselves as good, as if we do not deserve any of the challenges that come our way.

We do deserve all of those challenges, because we planned them for ourselves before we came into this world.  Every experience we have is meant to help us grow closer to the perfection and unity with God that we strive for.

Is that why we choose experiences such as an abusive relationship, being raped, losing a child?  The answer is yes.  The issue is not whether we can undo the bad experiences we have had, because we cannot undo what has happened.  The issue is rather how we deal with those experiences.

All our experiences shape our lives.  Some people have experiences that they wear like badges.  And there are organizations that encourage them to wear those badges, where members are expected to introduce themselves as: “My name is Elsabe, and I am an alcoholic/rape victim/parent who lost a child etc”

If your life path is to be a member of such a group, then so be it.  We all make our own choices.

Many years ago I attended a high school reunion.  The memory that stands out for me was of a woman that I did not know that well at school.  She approached a group of friends that I was talking to, and took over the conversation with explanations of all eight times she had to have surgery.  I cannot even recall her name, but I can recall that she had surgery eight times.  That is how she chose to define herself.

How do you choose to define yourself?  Have you had a terrible childhood?  Many great people had terrible childhoods and became great people despite that – or should I rather say because of that, because the experiences they had shaped them.  They took out of the experiences what they needed to grow into lovely people, and we know or remember them for their lives after their childhood.

We all know at least one woman who had a dreadful marriage with an abusive partner.  Some of them live the rest of their lives under the shadow of that partner, even when they had left the partner or the person died.  That is how they choose to define themselves.  Other women find resources inside themselves that they otherwise would not have been aware of and live life to the full.

We know about rape victims that become obese so that they can make their bodies unattractive, and other rape victims who find a new life helping people to get over traumatic experiences.

There are people who have lost a child and remember the child with love, and there are other people who feel that the world owes them something in exchange for the child.

The question is not how bad or how serious the trauma is that we experience.  We all experience some kind of trauma in our lives, and that experience shapes our life.

The question is how we choose to define ourselves after the trauma.  Do we want to become victims and live a life of self-pity?  If that is what you want, it is your choice. 

The other option is to live a life of inner peace and fulfillment, based on an understanding of how the experiences shaped us and brought us closer to perfection and to God.  The choice is entirely ours. 

Read an extract from See my Badge, a short story that illustrates how we can live through trauma and grow into inner peace.

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