Why is it that when we really want something, it takes ages to get it, even when we are impatient?
Why is it that some people remain stuck in for example a destructive relationship or a wrong job long after they have realised that it is time to get out?
Quite often we believe that we remain stuck in an undesirable position, when in fact we are still supposed to be learning from the situation. We are so focused on the end result that we completely forget to be observant. It is like being in such a hurry to get to a holiday destination that you miss out on all the scenery and interesting people that you rush past.
Then you reach the destination feeling exhausted, when in fact you could have had a leisurely trip.
One of my life themes is learning to deal with bullying. I have had to deal with this since birth, at work, in personal relationships and with friends.
As with any other victim, I took all this very personally and had no idea what I had done to deserve their treatment.
It took me years to discover the reason why I was bullied. Once I had mastered that, I understood what people were doing to me and why, but that did not took the pain away. I still cringed at every attack, and afterwards reminded myself that it was not necessary for me to endure this any longer.
Imagine my surprise recently when I was confronted in a confined space by a violent man and I barely noticed him. The incident stuck with me for days before I realised the significance of it.
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Elsabe
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We are weird creatures. We spend 1% of our time listening to the quantum vibration, 45% of the time creating our own stress and disappointment, and 50% of the time searching for a culprit.
There are at least three reasons why the Secret will not work.
The process of getting the Secret to work is quite simple: feel the quantum vibration, convert the vibration into a thought, express the thought in words and in action.
Step one is always perfect – we know when we feel the quantum vibration which creates the conditions for creation. After that the trouble starts – that is the trouble we create ourselves. We take one look at this perfect quantum vibration and we say “yes, but” and “what if”. By the time we have said that, we have already chosen how we want to let that perfect vibration materialise.
Then we spend our time and energy proving ourselves right, and we say the Secret does not work.
I was reading about survivor’s guilt and the part it plays in redundancy.
Whenever people are made redundant, there are big newspaper headlines that tell about fear for those who are leaving. There is a lot of finger-pointing and blame for the management of the company.
Quite often the atmosphere in the company is one of palpable fear, and during the process there is a definite “us and them” culture where those that remain behind don’t speak to those that are leaving.
The people who are made redundant, often feel that they are “guilty” if something intangible. Once they lave left the company under these conditions, it could take ages for them to recover their self-confidence and pride in their abilities.
From my own experience, I know that redundancy can be a spiritual and very enriching experience.
I have learnt over the years that redundancy is the Universe’s way to give us a nudge when it is time to move on and we choose to cling to what is no longer relevant or required.
Job was a man who suffered a lot in his life. It is interesting that when we work as an employee, we refer to our labour as a “job”.
On the other hand, a self-employed person is known as an entrepreneur (meaning “founder”). What have they found? Their life purpose? Their destiny?
One of the most powerful ways to “find yourself” is to be made redundant. When you are selected for such an experience, you can spend much energy trying to find someone to blame, or you can embark on a journey of self-discovery and find your true self.
I have thought for years that I would like to look up the company director who made me redundant after I had implemented a big project successfully. I would like to give him a case of his favourite whiskey, because if he had ensured my job safety, I would have disappeared into the oblivion of permanent employment. I owe him a lot.
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Love and Light
Elsabe
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Frank Joseph said “Following a vocation, that inner call, is not self-indulgence or an excuse for laziness. Doing what one really wants to do is hard work, but it is self-fulfilling as nothing else can be. It is the ultimate key to personal happiness in the physical world.”
Most of us grow up believing that we have to work for another person. There is nothing wrong with that, as long as you live your life’s passion. It is possible to be a very competent employee and get great joy out of what you are doing.
But what if you do not live your life’s passion? What if you are one of the millions of people who get up every Monday morning and dread the week ahead because you anticipate so much stress?
If you are one of the people who spend all your energy on realizing someone else’s passion, then you are not living an authentic life. You are ignoring your inner voice and your passion.
If I ask what you would like to do with your life when you have all the time and money in the world and no restrictions, you will have an answer ready. We all know what we want to do “one day”.
But what if that is really your life’s dream? What if you spend most of your life dreaming and you only have a few years left for doing?
Oh, yes, I can hear you saying but what if I lose everything? What if it does not work out? What if I find that I was wrong?
Marianne Williamson said “Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.”
So I ask you: what if you gain far more than you anticipate? What if you achieve your wildest dreams? What if you are challenged to achieve even more and to make an ever greater contribution to the world?
Living an authentic life means following your heart. Are you following your heart?
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Love and Light
Elsabe
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L Scott Peck wrote a book called The Road Less Travelled. The first three sentences in the book read “Life is difficult. This is a great truth, one of the greatest truths. It is a great truth because once we truly see this truth, we transcend it”.
Is your life difficult? If your answer is yes, does that mean you have not seen the truth yet?
We can actually transcend all difficulties in life. This is not just a philosophical view. This is a practical reality.
All our woes and troubles have one thing in common.
Think of all the problems you have in your life. Think of your sticky relationships, the conflict you have in your life, your health, your job – or lack of a job. Who is the one person that features in all of these situations?
Yes, you got it.
Does that mean you are a trouble maker? Of course not – unless, of course, you enjoy causing trouble.
The majority of people do not want to cause or have trouble. They just want to have a quiet, peaceful life with good health, great friends and abundance.
If only everyone else would do their share and work on the same agenda. Because if they don’t they cause you stress.
Guess what? They are not going to change. You need to change if you want to make your life any easier.
Let me know how I can help you with the change.
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Love and Light
Elsabe
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This is a quote from the Wall Street Journal in September 2009: “A recent study reported that 52% of working French don’t sleep well on Sunday night. But work-related stress is not a French disease, and is ubiquitous and severe in all developed economies. In the U.K. and U.S. 70% of employees don’t sleep well on Sunday night either.”
That means probably about
• 19 302 500 French workers
• 98 413 700 Americans and
• 21 700 000 British people
spent their Sunday nights tossing and turning in September of 2009, instead of getting a good night’s sleep.
Were you one of these millions of people? How did you overcome the problem? Or is it still a problem for you?
When we do things that are against our true nature, it requires a lot of energy. It also requires our energy to flow in a direction that does not feel natural. Our bodies go into a state of heightened alert and all systems go on standby.
Imagine how your body would respond when you do a job that is against your true nature. Your body would be in a continuous state of heightened alert during the week. By Friday afternoon you would feel exhausted, for good reason. Your energy will have been drained from you.
Then you spend the weekend doing things you love and enjoy, and you “re-charge your batteries”.
But what happens on a Sunday evening? Of course your mind starts to work on the job that waits for you on a Monday morning. You send a message to your body that says “time for heightened alert again” and your body obliges and becomes tense again. You cannot have a tense body and relaxed sleep. The result is a sleepless night of tossing and turning.
How do you counter-act the stress that keeps you awake on a Sunday night?
Find you life’s passion. Start to live that life’s passion as if each day is your last day. Your mind, body and spirit will be in alignment. You will sleep like a baby. It really is as simple as that.
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Love and Light
Elsabe
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What happened to your New Year’s resolutions for last year? Can you remember how long they lasted? And can you remember how you felt when you realised that you had failed in keeping them? You failed yourself.
Why did you make those resolutions in the first place? Of course, you made them because there was a particular part of your life that caused you much stress. Your solution was to make just one change. You fooled yourself into thinking that one change would make everything all right.
And when the change did not last, the situation was actually much worse, because you now felt even more like a failure.
For many people the only reflection they do in the New Year relates to the amount they drank (again) and how they never learn.
Other people do not even tell anyone what their New Year’s resolutions are, because they know from experience that the resolutions will not last into the New Year.
I went through the same vicious cycle for a significant part of my life. I believed that I was powerless to influence the outcome of anything, and therefore I had to just make the best of it.
The more I played the victim, the more I became a victim. I had to learn a few very hard life lessons before I realised that there is a plan behind every one of my experiences.
It was so interesting to note how groups of bad experiences dwindled the moment I “got the message”.
The more I delved into this, the more I discovered a different reality that made complete sense to me.
My own research has uncovered a massive body of knowledge that I started to apply in my own life. I came to see more patterns, more processes, more relationships between people and nature. I became aware of a different reality.
I learnt that some things happen to us because they are inevitable, while other things happen to us because they are part of a much bigger plan. I learnt how to distinguish between the things I had to change and the things I had to accept.
The result was that I no longer make any New Year’s resolutions. I no longer need them. Instead, I become aware of my life plan, and I allow thoughts and ideas to bubble to the surface. I then pick and choose what I want, and see how the thoughts become actions.
A significant outcome for me is significantly reduced stress, and significantly increased peace of mind and contentment.
If you want some ideas on how to reduce your own stress significantly and create the best New Year ever, please contact me for some great ideas.
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Love and Light
Elsabe
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